A complete timeline of J Lo's relationship history

Jennifer Lopez, the famous singer has been involved in several high profile rom coms including The Wedding Planner and been married three times, and in between dated several of Hollywood’s biggest names, including Ben Affleck.


While speaking to Harper’s Bazaar in January 2019,


“For me, the relationship journey has been very up and down. But it didn’t have to do with anybody else but me — it was about me figuring out me. Until you learn to love yourself, you can’t completely love [someone else] in a way that is pure and true. Once you do that, you can have relationships that are based on love and respect, that are supportive and nourishing,” Lopez said.

“There’s an evolution there that had to happen for me. I feel like I’m in a better place now.”


The singer’s turbulent romance has included marriage to Ojani Noa between 1997 – 1998, Chris Judd from 2001 – 2003 and Marc Anthony with whom she shares twins Max and Emme from 2004 – 2014.


She has also been engaged twice, once to Ben Affleck from 2002 – 2004 and to Alex Rodriguez in 2019.


J Lo and Alex Rodriguez confirmed in March 2021 that Lopez and Rodriguez were “working through some things” amid reports that they split and called off their two-year engagement.


Despite her history of divorce, the songstress revealed to Harper’s Bazaar in March 2018 that she has not given up on possibility of finding forever love.


"I do believe in marriage,” she said at the time. “And I would love to grow old with somebody in a committed relationship. But I’m not forcing anything right now.” She accepted Rodriguez’s proposal the following year.

Lopez said in Jan 21 that part of her journey toward getting to know herself involved reflecting on her past romances.


“I remember when I was going through therapy at the beginning, you know, kind of in my late 30s and there was a lot of talk about loving yourself and I was like, ‘I love myself,’” she recalled on Coach Conversations.
“But obviously, I was doing all these things in, like, my personal relationships that didn’t seem like I was loving myself, but I didn’t even understand the concept of it. It took time and it’s a journey and it’s still a journey for me.”

1. David Cruz


At only 15 J Lo dated David Cruz in 1984 – 1994 who she was with for 10 years.


2. Wesley Snipes


She then moved on to Wesley Snipes in 1995 and her first sex scene was shown in Money Train with her celeb BF at the time Wesley Snipes but in Feb 1997, J Lo met her first husband, a waiter at a Miami restaurant.


3. Ojani Noa - her first husband


J Lo married Ojani Noa in Feb 1997 at age 27, but their marriage was short-lived and they divorced 11 months later.


In Aug 2007, a court-appointed arbitrator issued a permanent injunction that forbid Noa from, “criticizing, denigrating, casting in a negative light or otherwise disparaging” his ex-wife. Noa later appeared on Millionaire Matchmaker in 2016.


4. Tommy Mottola - Mariah Carey's ex


J Lo then briefly dated Tommy Mottola in 1998, the Sony music exec who dated J Lo after his divorce from Mariah Carey in 1998 which was around the same time J Lo’s divorce from Ojani was finalised.


5. Sean 'Diddy' Combs


Lopez began dating hip-hop mogul, Sean 'Diddy' combs in 1999 after the pair met on set of a music video but split in 2001. In 2003 interview, the Vibe Magazine, the Maid in Manhattan actress claimed Diddy was unfaithful during their relationship.


The former rapper, for his part, declared his emotions in 2017, proclaiming J Lo was “without a doubt” one of his great loves. The two remained friendly.


6. Chris Judd - her second husband


J Lo met dancer, Chris Judd on the set of her "Love Don't Cost a Thing" music video and the two tied the knot in September 2001. The couple's marriage was over by June 2002 and their divorce was finalized in 2003.


Judd explained that their marriage “just didn't work out” while speaking with Us Weekly in September 2014.


“I can't give you the answer as to why her relationships don't work. I think that it's that it is work. It's whether you want to work on it or not. Everyone has baggage and problems. It's whether you want to deal with those problems,” he told Us at the time.
“When you sign up to get married, you can't just walk away.” Judd has since remarried to Kelly Wolfe, with whom he shares daughter Vivienne.


7. Ben Affleck


Then came The Justice League star, Ben Affleck and Lopez — famously nicknamed “Bennifer” by the press — met while filming Gigli, and they got engaged in November 2002 but her divorce to Chris Judd did not finalise until 2003.


The couple called off their wedding four days ahead of the event and later split up in January 2004.


“I was eviscerated. I lost my sense of self, questioned if I belonged in this business, thought maybe I did suck at everything. My relationship [with Affleck] self-destructed in front of the entire world,” the “Not Your Mama” singer told Vanity Fair in December 2017 of the headlines surrounding the critically panned Gigli and her split from the Oscar winner.
“It was a two-year thing for me until I picked myself up again.” In 2005, the Gone Girl actor later married Jennifer Garner, with whom he shares daughters Violet and Seraphina, and son Samuel. Affleck and Garner’s divorce was finalized in 2018.

Then came The Justice League star, Ben Affleck and Lopez — famously nicknamed “Bennifer” by the press — met while filming Gigli, and they got engaged in November 2002 but her divorce to Chris Judd did not finalise until 2003.

The couple called off their wedding four days ahead of the event and later split up in January 2004.

“I was eviscerated. I lost my sense of self, questioned if I belonged in this business, thought maybe I did suck at everything. My relationship [with Affleck] self-destructed in front of the entire world,” the “Not Your Mama” singer told Vanity Fair in December 2017 of the headlines surrounding the critically panned Gigli and her split from the Oscar winner.

“It was a two-year thing for me until I picked myself up again.” In 2005, the Gone Girl actor later married Jennifer Garner, with whom he shares daughters Violet and Seraphina, and son Samuel. Affleck and Garner’s divorce was finalized in 2018.

In May 2021, Affleck and Lopez reunited and were spotted together on multiple occasions, including on a getaway in Montana. “[Ben and Jennifer] had a heart-to-heart and it reignited the spark between them,” a source told Us at the time, noting that things quickly “progressed” between the exes.


5. Marc Anthony


Lopez then dated Marc Anthony, and the two married in June 2004, welcoming twins Max and Emme in February 2008. However, they announced their split in July 2011.


J Lo “knew very quickly that [their marriage] wasn’t the right thing,” telling W in April 2016, "When my marriage ended, it was not easy to find forgiveness. It wasn’t the dream that I had hoped for, and it would have been easier to fan the flames of resentment, disappointment and anger. But Marc is the father of my children, and that’s never going away. So I have to work to make things right. And that is, by far, the hardest work I do."


6. Beau ‘Casper’ Smart


Just 4 months after splitting from Anthony, J Lo started dating the backup dancer in Nov 2011.


Lopez later hired Smart as the creative director of her All I Have residency in Las Vegas. The former flames endured a bump in the road in 2014, when gossip site The Dirty claimed to have evidence that Smart had been exchanging photos and messages with a transgender model.


They went their separate ways in June of that year but continued with their on-again, off-again relationship before splitting up for good in 2016. There weren’t any hard feelings following their final breakup, however. Smart told Us Weekly in March 2017, “Jennifer is, like, phenomenal, phenomenal.